We work at the same place as teachers. At first, it was “Hello… Bye,” then all of a sudden, he started chatting with me often. Soon, he said he wanted to take me out to eat so he could get to know me better. I was new at the school then. I didn’t want to get entangled with anyone I didn’t know properly yet. So I told him I wasn’t really the outing type and that he could still get to know me through our phone conversations.
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“You can also get to know me when we meet at school. We don’t teach all the time. We can talk when we are free,” I suggested.
At school, there were usually other teachers who joined our conversations. We couldn’t talk about personal matters then. So he resorted to phone conversations. We spent long hours talking about anything and everything. During one of those talks, he confessed how he felt about me.
I also liked him. I thought he was cute and I liked that he was a devoted Christian. I didn’t tell him though. I kept dragging the proposal back and forth while I told him to give me time to pray about it.
When school vacated, he invited me to his house. That was when I finally accepted his proposal. The relationship began there and then.
I got to know his only sister and his dad who are both pastors. Although I am a Christian, I don’t attend church. His dad once asked me about that and I told him the truth.
We dated for two months. Initially, I was just doing “ma-try ma-ko3.” I just wanted to try and see where it would go. Before I knew it, I was falling head over heels in love with this guy. I couldn’t even understand how I got there.
Just this Monday, he told me that something was bothering him. I asked if I had done anything wrong, and he said, “No, you’ve been a blessing since you came into my life. I’ve seen how much you love me.” I stayed quiet to listen to what the problem was but he didn’t say anything else. He said he had to go to church. “Let’s talk when I close.”
By the time he closed, I was asleep so we continued the conversation the next day. He sent me a message on WhatsApp saying, “When I said something is bothering me I meant our relationship can’t end in marriage.”
Why?
He said he didn’t want to disappoint me. There and then, I pleaded with him to tell me if I had done anything wrong so I could make it right. I cried because I loved him so much and couldn’t imagine losing him.
The next day, he sent me a voice note saying that when he went to church on Sunday, his pastor called him into the office and told him his time was due to get married. However, the pastor said, he needed to separate himself and pray. “He says if I am in any relationship, I should step back and seek God’s direction. I want to listen to him,” he said.
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When I heard that, I broke down completely. I cried like a baby. I was so heartbroken that I didn’t even go to work for two days. I don’t know if I’m overreacting or not. I have been begging him and crying for him not to leave me, but he keeps telling me to stop, and that I haven’t done anything wrong. He just wants to obey what the man of God said to see what revelation will come.
Please, am I overreacting, or is this a nice way he is leaving me?
—Lola
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