My boyfriend came for a marriage list. He said it was expensive. Honestly, I don’t think it’s expensive at all, looking at his income and the kind of woman I am. I asked him to plead for a reduction from my dad. Even before he would call my dad and ask for the reduction, I spoke to my dad about it, and he said, “It’s not really about what’s stated. If he can’t afford it, he should bring what will show respect to the family.”
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I didn’t tell him what my dad said. I was only waiting for him to call him and speak to him man to man. He hasn’t called my dad, but each day he tells me about the list and talks about how expensive the whole thing is. I said, “That’s fine, just call my dad. He’s not a difficult person. Just talk to him.”
Just yesterday, he took a photo of the list and posted it on his status and asked, “Would you pay this amount to marry a woman, or would you invest it in your business?”
I called him right away and asked what in the name of disrespect that was. He said he was only joking. He wanted to hear what his friends would say. I would have none of that, so I told him my mind—that if he was not ready to marry, he should leave me alone and stop being childish. Maybe what I said hurt him, and I don’t even mind. Now, according to him, I overreacted, and it meant I support what my family is asking as a bride price.
My father said he should bring what would show respect to the family, so if instead of negotiating, he’s on his status asking for the opinions of friends, do you think a man like this respects my family?
We have dated for two years. I’m not the one who pushed him to marry me. We had a conversation about it, and he said he was ready, but the way he’s handling the bride price is giving me a window to look through to see the future of our relationship, and what I see isn’t pretty.
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I want to walk away. As a matter of fact, I feel he doesn’t have any respect for me as a woman and also doesn’t have respect for the family that raised me to become the woman he wants to marry. Is it too much of a haste if I walk out of this relationship and concentrate on my life?
—Obroni
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