A Nigerian woman, Na’ima Afemai, has reflected on her failed marriage, admitting that if she had not packed out she would have been miserable, overly religious, and a frequent patient at hospitals and pharmacies, constantly buying medication to treat recurring infections.
Opening up on life after divorce in a post on Wednesday, July 1, 2026, she patted herself on the back for mustering up the courage walk out, priotizing self-respect over societal expectations and chosing herself despite being a young girl then.
“Sometimes, I sit and wonder what my life would have looked like if I was still married,” she wrote.
“I know for a fact I’d have had a miserable life.
“I know for a fact that I’d have been a religious, wicked pickme woman with maybe two children.
“I know for a fact that I’d have been living life trying to please Adam wey no send my papa like that.
“I know for a fact that I’d have been a returning patients to hospitals and pharmacies, buying infection medication here and there.
“Infact, I fit don contact HIV or hepatitis b.
“Everyday, I look back and I thank the courage that surrounded me the day I packed out.
“I didn’t know where I got the audacity from that day but I did it.
“I look back and I am grateful I didn’t stay to ‘manage’ because no marriage is perfect.
“I look back and I am happy that I have control over my life and that I am the driver of my life and no one else.
“I look back and I am pleased that I chose myself. I put myself first despite being a very young girl then.
“I’d definitely be online fighting feminists for teaching me how to know my worth and have standards.
“I am truly grateful for every single thing.
“And if I had not experienced marriage earlier in life, I’d have still being a pickme looking to be picked.
“I’d have been desperate to be married and nothing feminist tell me not to be desperate will ever enter my ears because they are just haters and unhappy women.
“But now that I have had my own experience and share, when they talk, I quickly grasp and understand what they are saying because I have been there before.
“I am very much grateful for the experience of my failed marriage and I’d never trade that experience for anything!”
