About four months ago, I started dating this fine girl, many months after my girlfriend got married a month after we broke up. But that’s another story for another day. As we are both in our twenties, I had some expectations that we should build each other, you know. I like her too, but she likes asking for money too much.
I have helped her on several occasions to solve her problems, but it seems the problems never end, like the mercies of God, new every morning. Today, I am buying her sanitary pads, tomorrow it is shawarma because she is craving it, and the next day it is airtime so she can call me back. It feels like there is always something she needs, something that cannot wait, something that must come from my pocket.
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I was hoping things would reduce when she got a job, but even after getting employed, she still expects me to continue covering many of her expenses, almost as if I am some kind of sugar daddy. She collects her salary and somehow it never stretches to cover her own small needs, so the calls still come to me.
It is not that I am stingy. In fact, I am currently trying to rebuild my life and start a new business after losing my previous ones, and I have explained this to her several times. But she does not seem concerned about my situation or the challenges I am facing, and that is what stings more than the spending itself.
Recently, I have been thinking about letting her go so I can focus fully on my business. However, I keep asking myself if this is how every relationship is supposed to be. Is modern dating really built around finances, around a man proving himself by how much he can provide before love even gets a chance to breathe? I have told her repeatedly to be a little patient and allow the business to become stable before I start spending freely again, but she does not seem interested in waiting at all. Her business is to ask, and ask, and ask.
I Called My Girlfriend And Another Man Answered The Phone
So is it that some women cannot wait anymore, that love is not for the poor, or that they simply cannot take care of themselves anymore? I am genuinely asking because I need to know if I am the one who is asking for too much by asking her to wait.
—Enock
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