This story stretches all the way back to 1989, when my mother remarried my stepfather. If I remember correctly, she said it was God giving her another chance at love, and she held on to that belief like a promise she refused to let life break.
I grew up watching the two of them love each other the only way they knew how. It was quiet, deliberate, almost ritualistic. My mother would cook and serve him, then sit beside him while he ate, the two of them talking about everything and nothing at once. Sometimes she ate with him. Other times, he would feed her a morsel, small gestures that carried the weight of a full sentence.
Every day, my stepfather woke before the first crow of the cock, took his bag, and left for work. My mother would walk him to the door and stand there, waving until he disappeared from sight.
It was one of their small routines. Their love was different. An old kind of love. The kind this generation might mock, dismiss as old-fashioned, even foolish. But it worked for them. It held.
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They built it, slowly, with intention. At some point, my stepfather wanted to start a business, but he did not have enough capital. My mother, a teacher, used her position to secure a loan for him. They put everything together and invested it into that business. Like most businesses, it crawled before it walked. The early days were slow, uncertain. But gradually, things began to change. It picked up. We started living more comfortably. My stepfather began building properties.
During school vacations, we would sometimes visit the construction sites to see how the work was progressing. In total, there were three properties.
Then in 2010, he died intestate, without a will.
After his funeral, the properties were shared among his family, his children, and my mother, who was his only surviving spouse. My mother did not have a child with him, but she was his wife. She was his partner. She received the three-bedroom section, with a hall, dining area, and kitchen. The rest was divided among his family and children.
Eight years later, my mother died.
For me, it did gladden my heart that she had lived long enough to enjoy the fruits of her labour. What I was not prepared for was the kind of problems her death would bring.
After her death, our step-siblings came to see us. We thought they had come to sympathise with us. They did not come empty-handed. They came with stiff shoulders, heavy egos, and a mission.
They said to us, “Since your mother is dead and the properties were our father’s before he died, it is only proper that you return them to the family. The connection between our families no longer exists. Inheritance is only meant for those who are family.”
My sister and I looked at each other before speaking. I remember the disbelief sitting heavy in my chest. Where were they when our mother showed up for that marriage with everything she had? Where were they when she stood beside him, gave her all, and helped build that life?
They built it together. We saw it. We lived in it. We watched love turn into labour, and labour turn into something solid enough to stand on.
We asked them to give us some time. To come back later, so we could think and respond properly. But it has not been easy. They have grown impatient. There are tantrums now. They have drawn in other family members, people ready to fight at the slightest signal.
Since they insist that, legally, we have no claim to the property, it has been one long, exhausting headache. We all know what inheritance does to families. It stretches small disagreements into endless wars. What begins in one room spreads through the whole house and refuses to end.
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But here is what I know. My mother earned that property. Not as a gift. Not as charity. Not as something handed to her because she was a widow. She earned it as a partner who gave her income, her credit, her years, and her devotion to building what became those three houses.
What she left my sisters and me is not a handout. It is inheritance in the truest sense. The yield of a life faithfully invested.
Is a widow’s sweat equity only valid while she’s alive
—Jaja
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