This story stretches all the way back to 1989, when my mother remarried my stepfather. If I remember correctly, she said it was God giving her another chance at love, and she held on to that belief like a promise she refused to let life break. I grew up watching the two of them love…
My boyfriend came for a marriage list. He said it was expensive. Honestly, I don’t think it’s expensive at all, looking at his income and the kind of woman I am. I asked him to plead for a reduction from my dad. Even before he would call my dad and ask for the reduction, I…
It was three days to our second wedding anniversary. My husband had traveled for days. I woke up early one morning to a text message from him. It said, “I’m sorry to tell you this, but I can’t stay in this marriage any longer. I’m pretending to be happy, but nothing about this marriage smells…
I usually forgot my hairbrush whenever I visited him, so I used his shoe brush to brush my hair. I have natural hair. It’s always trimmed low. I went to his house, took his shoe brush, and it had strands of long hair. There was also another toothbrush that looked like it had been used…
The first fight we had, it was because I bought a rice cooker. He came to meet me cooking with it, and while I was excited about my first big purchase, he saw it as a “distraction.” I questioned what he meant by that. “You are going to leave school soon. You don’t need a…
I was dating a pastor when I was twenty years old. It started as prayers and later sauntered into, “God says you’re the one for me.” I didn’t hear God say that to me, but I agreed to date him, hoping what God had said would lead to a beautiful ending. He was my first…
If you haven’t read the first part of this story, here’s the link. Kindly read it before starting this one. Six months ago, I shared my story about having a mother and not having a mother. I read almost every comment, and so many people asked me the same question: why wouldn’t I go and…
I’d been trying to learn how to drive for a very long time, though I didn’t have a car. My boyfriend had one, but I didn’t ask him to teach me. I only asked him to help me register for a driving school. He said, “What can they teach you that I can’t teach you?…
I wasn’t feeling well, so that weekend I couldn’t go to his house to do chores. He drove to my place and dropped his laundry off and said his laundry hadn’t been done for weeks. Yes, I hadn’t done it for two weeks, because I hadn’t been feeling well. He dropped money for detergent and…
A few years ago, while on campus, I met a lady through a friend. We started as friends, and we were supposed to stay that way until feelings began to grow. Feelings don’t usually ask for permission, so when I started wanting more, I told her. If she had thrown a glass of water in…